Does Spiritual Practice Make You Happier?
Posted on Mar 30th, 2008
by 
Jake
Jake
Short answer? No.
But you didn't come here for the short answer, did you? (And if you did, well, I'm too wordy for that!). And the long answer is much more complex and intricate.
Long answer: Depends on what your definition of 'happiness' is.
Well, that didn't make things any clearer, did it?
For most people, happiness isn't something that's experienced as a primary emotion such as it is a commingled experience of feelings ranging from contentment, satisfaction, bliss and joy; and it is also the absence of negative emotions -- jealousy, anger, sadness, disappointment, confusion. But who can really define happiness in a clear, concise manner, without using these terms above? Who can encapsulate its meaning into something profoundly simple yet broad enough to describe the entire range of human happiness?
I've heard a lot of people confused by their practice when - after diligently attending to the practices of their chosen path - life doesn't get easier or happier. Parts of their experience they'd taken for granted start to fall away. Rules and concepts they believed stable and reliable no longer apply, and the right choice begins to waver, blurring from a clear line into a gradient of many options.
Most spiritual practices aren't designed for prolonging any particular state of mind such as 'happiness' or 'joy', or eradicating emotions like anger or jealousy. Meditation, for example, increases awareness of mental processes, allowing a person to see how feelings, thoughts, emotions appear, fill the mind, and fade back into the background. Physical practices such as yoga teach awareness of the way energy and feeling work in the physical body, offering a visceral understanding of the way each part connects to and works with the others. In fact, all the practices I've experienced - though certainly not even a significant fraction of the those by which enlightenment can be obtained - deal with awakening to a space of awareness, of opening to and seeing what's going on around you and inside you right now. They all deal with awareness.
But looking at anything really close up exposes imperfections, flaws, blemishes, differences. Nothing is perfect and uniform, no matter how close or far away you look... (though I like to say that makes everything perfect!). And that's how the life you're used to can fall apart, right in front of you, as your spiritual practice deepens.
If you were taught that the end of your practice is happiness, you'd probably feel cheated, disappointed, unproductive, disillusioned. Add that to confusion and you might think you just fell off the wagon. But you're actually just riding through the rough parts of the trail.
It comes down to that awareness. Your life hasn't gotten worse, but you're more aware of what's going on and more aware of your responses to it - the peaks and valleys you used to miss, or ignore, or smooth over by virtue of not paying attention, or resisting, or denying now spread out unavoidably in front of you. And you likely see yourself making these decisions that part of you understands aren't your best choices, but that another part of you feels are your only choice. And when you feel sad, you feel totally aware of your sadness. When you feel angry, you feel totally aware of your anger. But if you've learned that enlightenment is total, unending bliss, you might also feel as if you shouldn't be angry, or shouldn't be sad, or should just let things pass without attachment.
Detachment by itself does not awaken a person, and the common perception of detachment goes like this "Don't feel too strongly for or against anything. Let it be, let it flow. I shouldn't want things or resist things.", etc., etc. But we're human. We're expressed in a form that feels love, lust, desire, anger, sadness, joy, pain... and to detach fully requires that we resist the very form we're given; it requires pushing away a part of what we are. And while that's not impossible, I wonder if we place too much attachment on the idea of detachment itself; I hear so many people say 'I shouldn't be angry.' or 'I shouldn't be upset' when the fact is, expressing that only redoubles and continues the emotions that trouble them so.
Spiritual practice is going to make you tremendously angry, tremblingly sad, deliriously happy. In fact, for a while everything will feel vastly intensified, if you let it; if you don't resist it.
And then, sooner or later, will come a glorious experience. You'll drive home one day and hear yourself say 'I'm mean because I broke up with so-and-so", and you'll hear another part of yourself say "I don't need to feel that way." and your ego will slink back. Maybe it will come out a little later and taunt you for something else, and you'll strike back with "That's not important to me."
And you're liberated from being intimately identified with that voice that strikes you down - the "I'm a really bad person. Haha!" smug voice that gets some satisfaction out of self-hatred. Soon you realize that you're also a step behind the waves of emotion that used to completely shake the foundations of your being. You still feel as strongly, but the emotions no longer define you, and so you hold onto them with much less anxiety and energy.
And in that space, all the emotions of being human - love, anger, sadness, and others - still rise and fall, but behind it all is a peace, an open space where you are you, the atman, the holy part, the unbreakable you. And this, truly, is a form of happiness that can coexist with all other emotions you're capable of feeling.
(It shouldn't be a surprise that this is a point of awakening or enlightenment in some traditions - in some forms of Buddhism it represents a part of the first level of enlightenment...)
Yesterday, I ran through a parking lot with my arms outstretched, gleefully giddy, and felt so totally free. That moment, that feeling, such intimate and ephemeral perfection, and I was free to let the joy go naturally instead of fight to keep it alive.
Does spiritual practice make you happier? No, it brings you awareness, intimacy with now and here, freedom from the bondage of your past decisions and arbitrary rules. It brings you tremendous turmoil and then unstoppable peace. It brings you to your center, to the place of your calm, where you find a happiness that exists in the presence of all things, even sadness, anger, disappointment.
Does spiritual practice make you happier? Yes. It just takes you all over the map on the way.
Credit goes to Buddhadharma for the inspiration for this entry with their recent forum "Does Buddhism make you happier?" -- and to Sara for helping me talk through these ideas and providing a few real-world examples.
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I liked reading this and found much truth in it. thank you, jenni
“Does spiritual practice make you happier? No, it brings you awareness, intimacy with now and here, freedom from the bondage of your past decisions and arbitrary rules. It brings you tremendous turmoil and then unstoppable peace. It brings you to your center, to the place of your calm, where you find a happiness that exists in the presence of all things, even sadness, anger, disappointment.”
exactly! my short answer is: spiritual practice brings awareness, acceptance, and serenity enabling us to kick ass and be still :)
thanks for sharing your thoughts and insights.
~C
Great example!
The Tibet/China thing shows that even Tibetan Buddhism isnt able to provide full spectrum of perspectives and blueprint for action. here comes SDi. The memetic landscape is to be adressed.
And what exactly is spiritual practice? Read introducing lectures of Yasutani Roshi in “Three pillars of Zen” where he points to 5 different motivations/intentions to meditate and practice. So absolute clarity of purpose and intention for any spiritual practice is important too.